I've noticed that I've been a bit of a grinch this holiday. I struggled to put up any holiday decor, I didn't send out Christmas cards and I'm kind of meh about the whole thing. It took me a little while to realize that I'm struggling, because even though it's been almost 7 years, I still miss my Poppy.
With all the holiday hustle and bustle it can be easy to forget that some of us might be struggling. It's ok to feel a little bit down around the holidays if you are missing someone, just not in the mood, or really feeling that you've been single for too long. It gets lonely sometimes.
Here are a few things that I have found that help me:
- Just do it, or, fake it until you make it. Making myself at least put up some Christmas lights did unthaw my heart a little bit.
- Reach out to friends. It's really hard sometimes to reach out when you are having a hard time, but it helps so much. I know this works and I'm the worst at doing it.
- Do something festive. I went to the Christkindlemarket downtown in Chicago just to wander. I got some mulled wine and people watched. It was super crowded but that's ok. The lovely winter light, the twinkling lights and the happy people were worth it.
- Give yourself space. If spending a week with your family isn't doable, then don't do it! Limit your time with people that may not accept or understand where you are at today. It's ok. There's this thing called self-care and boundaries are an important part of that.
- It will all be over soon! Well, until next year.
If you have a friend who has lost a loved one then reach out to them. Even if it has been a few years. I think we don't talk about people once they have died because we don't want to bring up unhappy memories, but it is even harder when people don't talk about the person who is gone. It is nice to be reminded of the good memories, even if I do get a little choked up.
Happy Holidays everyone.